Would you live for them?
- agevenson
- Apr 24
- 4 min read
You know how you always hear parents say they would die for their kids?
It's almost an automatic response that shows how deeply you love your little ones.
But recently I've been wondering if we're focusing on the wrong thing. The real question isn't whether we'd die for our children, but whether we're truly living for them.
Think about it.
Dying for someone is a dramatic, heroic gesture most of us will thankfully never have to make. But living for them?
That's the daily work that requires consistent commitment and often goes unnoticed.
Living for your children means choosing your health (financial, emotional, physical and more) so you can be a great example in their lives for as long as possible.
It means doing the hard, messy work of healing your trauma instead of letting them inherit your wounds. It means speaking to yourself with kindness in front of the mirror so they don't learn to hate their bodies or doubt their worth.
I don't know about you, but I've caught myself repeating the same patterns my parents showed me.
Those generational cycles don't break themselves.
When I snap at my kids in that tone my mom used with me, I realize that living for them means doing better than what I was shown.
Protecting your inner peace isn't selfish – it's essential. Inner peace can be almost impossible in a world telling you to compete with your neighbor, compare achievements, and sacrifice everything just for show.
And I know how hard it is to have enough energy at the end of the day to be an effective parent. Children need a calm, centered parent they can turn to, not someone who's constantly running on empty or overwhelmed by their own unprocessed emotions.
They need to see what it means to really LIVE.
The truth is, sometimes living for them is harder than dying would be.
When you have to commute to work and back, when you are too busy for self-empowerment, and all you need is a good nap.
The real challenge is freeing yourself from the 9-5.
Releasing the common programming that keeps you looking for another provider, whether in the form of an employer or the government. Looking for a way out of self-sufficiency rather than a way in.
What if I told you that it's easier than you were programmed to believe?
Growth is a lifelong journey - not something that ends when you become an adult.
What about you?
Are you only willing to die for your children, or are you committed to truly living for them?
That's the real work of love. And I believe in you – we're in this together, figuring it out one day at a time.❤️
Just as true parenting means actively living for your children not just being willing to die for them, true autonomy means actively breaking free from what limits us.
Ever feel trapped by your own thinking? We all do.
The mental anchors and limiting beliefs hold you back, just like unhealed trauma affects how you parent. The voice that whispers "you're not good enough" or "that's just how things are" keeps you circling the same mountain, never reaching the summit of your potential.
This is where AUTONOMY comes in.
AUTONOMY provides the tools and framework to create lasting change in your life. Through structured modules, interactive exercises, and community support, you'll learn to identify and challenge the limiting beliefs that have held you back for too long.
AUTONOMY isn't just about independence. It's about working effectively with others. It's about finding your unique voice while harmonizing with others. It's about setting healthy boundaries while creating meaningful connections. It's about writing your own story while honoring those who helped shape you.
It's through AUTONOMY that I honed the skills that make me a successful entrepreneur and a flexible income earner. I no longer "look for jobs," I now offer solutions in exchange for money.
And every year I practice this new way of thinking, I come up with better and more interesting ideas.
This is a lifetime enrollment program... YES! That means you can repeat any time, try out your new ideas in a safe environment and interact with the lively community for life!
All you have to do to enroll is book a discovery call.
That's where I learned Richard's methods for shedding mental anchors, establishing practices that stick, and developing the courage to live with unwavering integrity. Never mind the practical time management techniques that align with my values, not someone else's definition of success.
My life changed dramatically in the last few years.
And I am not the only one. Many of my AUTONOMY friends have also released the bonds that held them back and now live a life of their own design.
Remember, it isn't just about freedom—it's the power to choose who you become and succeed at it.
I would absolutely throw myself in front of a bus to save my children.
Now I'm learning that the more meaningful commitment is choosing to live for them in ways that create new possibilities and break old patterns.
I still have a chance to show them how to really LIVE.
Here's to choosing your health, healing your trauma, speaking to yourself with kindness, breaking those generational cycles, and protecting your inner peace!
Most of the Portal Gathering co-producers are AUTONOMY graduates. AUTONOMY has been a partner for the past Portal Gatherings.
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